Picture taken by my friend Cyndi Leos....thank you Cyndi.

Thursday, August 2, 2012

An Explanation...

A lot has been going on over here at our that the flooring project is put to bed and most of the stuff we are keeping is back in the house and the rest will eventually be donated...

We had our son (my step-son) graduate from Marine Boot Camp July 20th so we were down in San Diego for that.  OH WHAT A TRANSFORMATION in him!  Not only the 20 pounds of muscle he gained, but so much more affectionate, outgoing, un-filtered and talkative...  We could not be more proud!  We had a huge group of 28 eating lunch afterward, all the young Marines in their dress blues made quite a positive commotion!  The way they conduct themselves while in uniform and just the way they stand at impressive!

We also went to a family BBQ on Saturday at another of my husband's son's home in Irvine and spent the night visiting, catching up, eating and swimming...very nice.  Sunday we went to an Angel/Ranger game with the Irvine family and another son's family from Nevada.

Last Wednesday, our Marine and his sister came to visit to bring us pictures and spend the night going out on the town....VEGAS STYLE...after a big breakfast, they drove back to CA on Thursday as the Marine had uniform inspection on Friday.

He left the 31st for Combat training at Pendleton for a month, then has a ten minute ceremony and gets on the bus to the airport and flies to Virginia.  He is still under background check, but he suppose to be assigned to Intel.

In between all of that, I have this lump, this hitch hiker on my right elbow.  To give you the short version of this saga, I chose not to have the MRI and have elected to have the surgeon aspirate the lump today in his office at 2:40pm to see if he can determine if it is benign...either a ganglion cyst or a fat filled keep your fingers crossed and keep saying those prayers!

Just before we left for CA, our big, huge picture window in our great room suddenly cracked during two days of thunder storms.  Had to replace that when we returned... to the tune of $467....

My Dad is 92, a Marine veteran from the battle of Tarawa and he is in a nursing home with Alzheimer's/Dementia.  I am his advocate and keep track of his medication and medical issues and communicate it to my family.  Lately, he has really slowed down and has circulation issues in his legs which is causing problems with his left foot, complicated by an infection around skin cancer on his baby toe.  His doctor has talked of amputation but putting such a patient under general anesthesia is usually not recommended.

Seven years ago, my Mother in law was heavily sedated for a CT SCAN because she also had Alzheimer's and could not hold still for the test.  They needed to determine why she kept falling, other than the falling, she was perfectly healthy.  She was a total zombie after waking from the sedation.  She never recovered, went down hill and died two months later.

Lately, Dad's doctor and I have been communicated via email and we have been discussing Hospice for Dad.  I spoke with the hospice expert this morning and sent out an email to my family.  Having a brief experience with hospice with my mother in law, I see them as Angels on earth...both my husband and I wished we had called them much sooner.  Their support was so meaningful and valuable.

If anyone out there does not know, hospice does not mean impending death or that the patient is expected to die in 6 months.  Often that is the main criteria for most hospice patients, but many stay on hospice for 18 months to two years and some even come off hospice they are doing so well...often with Alzheimer's patients!  Hospice is all about dignity, comfort, and support for the patient.  I highly recommend a hospice team to increase visitation and positive relationships for your loved ones.

We will be discussing hospice as a family, but my vote is to bring in hospice for Dad...he deserves only the best...

When I can stay awake and home, I am tuned into the Olympics.... Isn't it incredible???  I am rooting for Michael Phelps.  Hurray for the Fab Five! We are neck and neck with China...

Anyway, that has what I have been doing and why I have not been blogging as often...I've had a lot on my plate.  I have also been feeling highly emotional and cry at the drop of a hat....which turns out is very exhausting because I keep finding myself awaking stiff necked from falling asleep in my rose recliner....


Mari said...

I love watching the Olympics too!
I can understand you being emotional - you have so much to deal with lately.
I vote yes on Hospice too. :(

Kerin said...

girl.. you HAVE been burning the candle at both ends.
It's a wonder you don't drop in your tracks!!

Congrats to your Marine!

Sorry to read about your Dad's health crisis. Hope that all is resolved and he is on his way to better health!

I also hope that you just have a ganglion cyst.
Our youngest son has had a doozy of one on the inside of his wrist since he was about 6.
Last Fall, he had to have it drained.

Please, take care of you!


Annie said...

I remember doing something very like that 30 years ago at Camp Pendelton in Oceanside, CA. Great memory. You will cherish yours.

Jeanie said...

I have been to a Marine Boot Camp graduation in San Diego and it is an impressive experience.
It sounds like you have been plenty busy....all good if you take a little time for yourself between activities.
It sounds like hospice would be a good move for your dad. I know you would feel good having him under that kind of care.
I hope the news regarding the lump on your elbow is good news and that you can put worry about that behind you.

DJan said...

What a very full time this is for you right now, Donna. I am glad to hear everything that is going on, so I'm glad you did write the post. Hope that lump turns out to be nothing, and I do hope that you put your dad in Hospice. It's been nothing but stellar in all my dealing with it. Sending you hugs!!!

kaykuala said...

Congrats on your Marine son. He can look forward to great things ahead. My MIL is also afflicted with dementia. We went through the same. Hospice is a savior. Pray your elbow is just a false alarm. A candid write Donna!


Teresa - in the Middle Side of Life said...

you have been so busy - and definitely burning the candle at both ends AND in the middle!

take care of yourself. i understand about hospice. my dad needed hospice and it was in the works but he passed suddenly before they could get the team set up.

looking forward to possibly meeting you in december. we'll be there the 9th and leave on the 13th.

LindyLouMac in Italy said...

Good times and sad times, Take Care and do not worry about blogging concentrate on the real world.